Once again, the cleanup has begun at Chez Broad for the impending arrival of
the Snidge; this time, she's bringing along her baby brudder, and we're going to see
this massive hunk o' musical genius at Park West Saturday night, to which I've never been. Save for
Roger Clyne this summer, it's my first real concert in a long time, so I'm pumped. And thankfully, the crib still is in pretty good shape from when she was up here for the races in September. Could it be that I'm becoming less of a human pig?
(snicker)
In the meantime, I'm taking a break from picking up, and I check the competition's Web site to see what they've got going; it's something I do to a) see if we've been scooped and b) compare stories with the reporter I covered something with. So I scroll down to the columnist section, and I see this one columnist has a new one up about an incident that happened last Wednesday near East Chicago where this pigfucker named George Soltis made a couple homeade bombs and took his soon-to-be ex-wife Dora on the ride of her almost-death. By the grace of God, Dora was able to jump out of the moving vehicle, but not before pigfucker beat the will to live out of her with the ass-end of a .357. As well, pigfucker called Dora's son to tell him his plan to blow the two of them to kingdom come, and the boy was able to call police, who then found the two, arrested pigfucker and detonated the explosive devices.
[A side note: This all happened not more than five minutes from Chez Broad, and I DIDN'T HEAR A DAMN THING. I was home all night, too. And not drunk.]
Naturally, the event was front-page news with the requisite photos of a badly beaten Dora, so the columnist wrote about it and how yeah, it was great that Dora escaped from the pigfucker alive, but you know, she saw the signs that the guy was bad news.
Why didn't she get out sooner!?? Or why did she go out for that one last dinner with him!?? And I thought to myself, "You know, [name redacted for not wanting to pimp out the competition, plus this guy's a jerk], methinks that you're spending too much time in the casinos observing people's behavior -- to which you devoted a whole column -- or you've forgotten the time you spent over in the Balkans covering the war, or you're just not getting a whole lot of real-life assignments, because you really don't have a clue, do you?"
I'll tell you why she didn't leave: She likely thought she would be safer if she stayed. I was reminded of this when I covered the annual domestic violence vigil for Crown Point's St. Jude House a week or so ago. I talked to a victim who'd been away from her abuser about a year and-a-half; she was "lucky," because the abuse was 99 percent verbal and emotional. The one time he got violent with her, though (in front of her kids, of course), the cops were called in, and they asked if she wanted to press charges. She said "No"; at that point, she knew he was drunk, etc., and that she could handle somewhat. What she DIDN'T know was just how REALLY mad he was going to be when he was released from the drunk tank after eight hours. (At the time, that's as long as he could be held on a domestic; legislation recently set up for woman beaters to be held for 48 hours.) THAT'S the devil of which she was most afraid. And that's the devil of which most, if not ALL, battered women are most afraid.
You might recall that
breakfast I attended in the spring that had Waymon Brown as the keynote. During that talk, he played a tape that a woman secretly made during an episode with her abuser; I believe it's used in most domestic abuse training courses these days. Anyway, the abuser went on for at least 20 minutes straight of nonstop mindfuck at warp speed while the victim weeped, frightened out of her noodle. Why did the abuser go off so bad? Well, he'd just gotten out of jail because the cops were called THE LAST TIME he went off on her. You tell me.
So yeah, competition columnist needs to get out more.
Oh, whatEVER.
Stockholm syndrome: people start to like their captors after awhile.
It’s worse if someone has a romantic relationship and has spent many years together. (The couple was married for 6 years). He had 6+ years to mess with his soon-to-be ex-wife’s mind.
All of these guys isolate their women and take away their independence. No money means they have to stay with the guy. Plus, no self-esteem cements the deal.
Soltis needs to go away for a long time. I wrote on my blog that he is the same as any other terrorist. He just works on a smaller scale with different goals.
Saying that someone should have left sooner is the same as saying that someone should have avoided getting robbed. Sure, sitting on the sidelines with 20/20 hindsight, everyone would be able to avoid all of life’s problems.
Too bad the real world doesn’t work that way all the time.