So, here's the deal. (For those who read Snidget I've already posted some of this on her blog.) Lil Sis is 34, divorced for about a year, 2 small kids. She's cute, fun, sweet, and an all around great person. As such, she's never been short in the men arena. Men flock to her. Understandably so. Right after Thanksgiving of this year, she started dating a new guy. I met him over Christmas and I like him a lot. He, too, is divorced and has a young son. I heard from my mom last week that Lil Sis and New Guy are getting married. And, they've set a tentative date for Feb. 26. Yep. Feb. OF THIS YEAR! Three weeks from now, Feb. I, of course, proceeded to flip the fuck right out. Ask Broad and Winston. They got the brunt of my flipping. I mean, come on? How can you know if you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone in 2 monts?? And, there are small children involved here. I like the guy. But, 2 months??? I hadn't heard from Lil Sis and decided to give her until this past weekend to call me and tell me that what's what. Didn't hear from her. Played some phone tag and finally talked to her last night. It's a done deal. They are for sure getting married in 3 weeks. So, I flipped out on her. I told her that if you can still count how long you've been dating in days, it's way too soon to get married. 60 DAYS!!! DAYS!!! What was the rush? (This was my not-so-subtle way of asking if she were preggers.) She said that there were "factors" and they didn't want to wait. Factors?? So, I flat out asked, "Are you pregnant?" She laughed and said "No!" in kind of a shocked way. I said, "Well, you're getting married after 2 months. You gotta expect people to think that. And you know I wouldn't care if you are." She said no, there were other factors. I finally got the other factors out of her. She quit her full-time job a month ago and has only been working part-time at her waitressing/bartending gig at Chili's. My response? "You know money isn't a very good reason to get married, right?" She said, "Of course!" and then kinda blew that off. Then, she puts New Guy on the phone. I say to him just about everything I had just said to Lil Sis (well, I left out accusing him of knocking her up). He got annoyed with me. Very annoyed. I could hear his subtext screaming at me: "Shut up. It's none of your business, so stay out of it." I told him that I wasn't saying anything to him that I hadn't already said to Lil Sis. He told me, "I've been divorced for over 6 years. It's not like I'm jumping into anything." I snorted and said, "You've only been dating 2 months. That's jumping." Lil Sis and New Guy both told me that I didn't need to come down for the wedding (they live 600 miles south of me) because it was no big deal. I stopped them cold. "It is a big deal. You're making a life-long oath to each other. That's a big deal. A huge deal. Don't tell me it's not and how can you even think I wouldn't want to be there for it?" Frankly, that hurt my feelings a lot. We have a brother who lives about 600 miles west of where Lil Sis lives. He doesn't even know about the wedding yet and when he finds out, he's gonna be pissed. There's no way he can make it because his wife is scheduled for a c-section on Friday. And, Lil Sis has always wanted Lil Bro to perform her next wedding (he's a pastor), but since he wouldn't be able to do it until April or May, she decided that she'd use her own pastor. Which is better than the justice of the peace New Guy wanted. In fact, New Guy keeps saying that they should just run down to the courthouse and get it done. Way to make that oath-taking a special event, dude. My family is fairly close and pretty religious (the religious scale goes from me who attends church about 1/month to my older sister who is a scary fundy). A courthouse wedding wouldn't cut it in our family. I'm just floored by this whole thing. I liked New Guy when I met him at Christmas. He just got knocked down a few pegs after our conversation last night. I see signs where he could end up being a controlling fuck and that scares me. I asked Lil Sis if she felt like she really knew him well enough to make a lifelong committment to him. She said yes. I asked if they had ever had a fight. She said, "No. Do we need to?" I said yes! Then they'll see each other in a bad way and know that they can work through it. She thought I was nuts. Lil Sis was hurt pretty badly by her first marriage/divorce. I don't want to see it happen to her again. But, rushing into a marriage? Not an auspicious beginning. So, I now need to make plans for a road trip and buy a new dress. To quote Broad, "Meh."Oh, whatEVER.